Argle Bargle... What in the world is that?? A game?? A new book??

(Noun1.argle-bargle - a verbal dispute; a wrangling argument
contestation, controversy, disceptation, arguing, argument, contention, disputation, tilt - a contentious speech act; a dispute where there is strong disagreement; "they were involved in a violent argument"
To hear argle bargle spoken click here;

No, Argle Bargle is a wonderful word and very real word that was brought to my attention because Julie and I wanted to create a code word for off limit topics. After Julie and I reconnected (there was a 10 year absence) we wanted to make sure that we did not have to go thru that awkward “I am being really careful what I say around you till I feel out how open you are or how different our views are” stage. Well, we are not really the type of gals that want to wade thru that stage so, one night during a 9 hour phone conversation (several good, brave, loyal and courageous cordless phone's gave up their charge for us that night LOL) we were thinking of a word that would be funny and quirky (just like us) and light hearted way to day “I am not able to change my view or this topic is out of bounds for discussion right now. We have not had to use it but, just knowing that we can pull it out any time we want to really makes our friendship very, very open. It is so liberating to know that you can talk about anything at all cus if the other person is not able to discuss this topic or during the conversation if each of the opposing friends are getting upset or do not think that they can discuss this at this time then we just whip out the magical Argle Bargle!!

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I might be bringing this up other than the sheer cute and genius of it. Well... this past week brought a topic to a website that I belong to that really raised some tempers. The author of the post was upset about the subject matter. I mistakingly thought that the author wanted to discuss it. I thought about my comment and I had my husband read it and when we were both satisfied that my input on the topic was polite and well thought out. I was ready for the discussion to begin. I must interject here for those of you who do not know I love a good debate. I love to be challenged intellectually. Ok , back on topic. ;) I was encouraged when I saw that others felt the same way as me. This was looking good. Till... I got a response from the author of the topic. She yelled at me (online) and told me that I had lambasted her and that I should not read her posts anymore if I don't like what she has to say. I was really sad. There were several things that made me upset. 1. I really really made sure that I was polite. 2. I was sad that she was so close minded. 3. That the topic was I thought brought up for discussion but, in reality she just wanted others to agree with her and validate how she felt about it. 4. After she yelled at me and few more people disagreed with her she left a very scathing comment then closed the topic so that no one could respond to her childish/pouting ending statement. I felt like I had been yelled at and challenged then as I prepared my defense she ran away. Like when you are a little kid and you have an argument over who's turn it is and you concede that it is their ball so they should go first but, when it comes time for your turn they snatch the ball and run away and you can't even say anything to them. The last reason why this upset me so much is the website that this happened on is a homeschool site and I just really think that the topics on there should be homeschooling. Everyday I see inflammatory topics. I usually ignore them but, I really am sick of it. I really think that we should be talking about homeschooling topics like: how the daytime curfews that are being passed all over the nation. That affects homeschoolers. Or how about these scouts that are being taught to fight like soldiers These are topics about children these are the kinds of topics I want to see so, I am going to start posting a topic each week. I would love for y'all to talk about them with me or each other. There will be topics that I am sure will be Argle Bargle for some. If that is the case please, please feel free to argle bargle and then propose a topic you would like to hear about or bring up. There will also be several more changes in the upcoming weeks. :) I hope you enjoy.

I wrote the other day I wrote about how my husband was stranded on the side of the rode at 2 am and sweet Judy asked me what was he doing driving at that time of night. Well, my husband had to go to the city (4 hours away) for work. While he was there he was invited to a prayer circle at he the spiritual assembly that he belonged to there. The prayer circle went late as these things often do. ;) His original intention was to stay the night again but, after being invigorated he was wide awake and wanted to go ahead and drive home. He made it about ½ way when the car revved and the temperature gage spiked and the car died. I am happy to report that my husband is safe and sound and that we do have a vehicle that was given to us that is in fair working condition.

Last but not least here is a picture of my new red hair. ;) Y'all know I am a crazy fluffy gal so the color should not shock you. ;) I do want to say however that my husband actually told me I looked “great” in that dress. I have seen the pictures and I know for a fact that dress is not flattering at all. That is why it is my house cleaning dress. And only cus I loves ya guys am I gonna let you see me in it.

Have a great day!!

Comments (10)

On May 19, 2009 at 9:35 PM , SAHMinIL said...

Oh my gosh...Your Hair.... :) I'm glad you like it!! Love ya :)

On May 19, 2009 at 9:46 PM , Shawntele said...

Love the hair; it reminds me of my Raggedy Ann doll! :)

On May 20, 2009 at 2:27 PM , Anonymous said...

cool red hair! I know the kids love it. I love the name of your blog. It's cute. LOL


On May 21, 2009 at 6:33 PM , ~ Judy ~ said...

Oh I am SO RELIEVED to hear that your hubby is safe and sound...and he was out PRAYIN' at two a.m. WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Next time he goes there, have him throw my name in the pot would ya'? THANKS)

I agree with your look lovely in that dress! And your new hair color goes well with your bright, cheerful, unique, awesometastic personality!
I look forward to these topics of which you speak...and I too, have been saddened by the downward turn the atmosphere on that certain website has taken :(

On May 27, 2009 at 8:13 AM , MOM #1 said...

Now THAT is red hair. I always say "go big or go home." I guess you're doing it big AT HOME, LOL.

Don't let others negativity get you down, misery loves company and all that jazz. Rise above it like the queen that you are.

On June 4, 2009 at 5:17 PM , Anonymous said...

Haley, I don't know if you are a Christian, but it is important to be honest. I just went back and read both your comment and the authors reply on that dicussion, and several things you said in this blog post just were not true. She did not yell at you, she was fairly respectful in her reply, and your main complaint was that she posted in the wrong place . . . which she didn't. That site allows discussion on all topics, not just homeschooling. I am sorry you don't think there should be discussion on controversial issues unrelated to homeschooling, but it is nice to discuss such thing with other homeschool moms. I hope you will correct the untruthful things you said in this post.

On June 5, 2009 at 12:30 AM , Haley said...

Dear Anonymous,
Please read my latest blog post in it I will respond to you comment. There is just not enough room for me to post here is comments. Thank you for visiting my blog. I hope you will come back often. And feel free to post more comments. I am very open to others opinions and very willing to listen. I hope you are too.
Have a wonderful day!! ❤❤

On June 5, 2009 at 1:17 AM , Julie said...

If I may be permitted this little rant, I wanted to put my two cents worth on this blog. I am unfortunately, not surprised by the comment that anonymous made. It seems to be an all too familiar event these days. People name calling and slandering. I can see where anonymous made effort to be sincere in the comment, but fell short. If there’s a belief that someone’s posts are “untruthful”, then perhaps an email or private note should be given the blogger. Accusing someone of being untruthful via a comment on THEIR blog, is just, well, not very mature.

I am pleased to see that Haley addressed the anonymous poster in her blog post. Comments like these should not go unanswered, for a variety of reasons. I also agree that Haley’s blog is multi-faceted, just like her and it would do well to read different things she has posted before judging her. Oh, which brings me to another item I wish to address. Isn’t up to God to judge people, not people to judge people? There are so many professing to be Christians, when the Bible states plainly: let Christ’s light shine through you, do good works, edify and uplift, etc., etc. I’m not so sure that the majority of Christians are setting good examples that would attract others to become believers.

One thing I want understood here is: I do NOT agree with Haley on everything, but the beauty of a friendship with her is, I don’t HAVE to! We can intelligently agree to disagree, maintain our separate opinions and still be the better for it after a conversation.

For anyone who reads this, thanks. Haley, hugs and smooches!

On June 5, 2009 at 5:36 AM , SAHMinIL said...

That's why there is "moderating" comment! LOL Okay, that was a joke, not a very good one, but a joke. Anyway, I still LOVE the hair :) Love Ya :)

On June 5, 2009 at 7:35 PM , ~ Judy ~ said...



That was a joke too!